No, you don’t need to be remarried in the Orthodox Church. If you’re already married when you become Orthodox, the Church recognizes that marriage as valid.
This comes as a relief to most people. When you’re converting to Orthodoxy, there’s already a lot to think about, learning the services, understanding the theology, figuring out how to explain all this to your Baptist mother-in-law. The last thing you need is worrying about whether your marriage “counts.”
The Orthodox Church views marriage as both a natural bond and a sacrament. When two Christians freely consent to marry each other, that creates a real marriage, even if it happened at First Baptist or the Jefferson County courthouse. The Church doesn’t pretend your wedding fifteen years ago didn’t happen just because it wasn’t Orthodox. You made vows before God. Those vows matter.
What the Church Actually Requires
When you’re received into Orthodoxy through chrismation or baptism, that reception completes your sacramental life. You don’t need to redo everything that happened before. The Church isn’t asking you to get re-baptized if you were baptized in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Same principle applies to marriage.
There are some basic requirements for the Church to recognize your existing marriage. Both spouses need to have been validly baptized in a Trinitarian Christian tradition. Neither of you can have a prior marriage that’s still binding, if there was a divorce, that needs to be addressed with your priest and potentially the bishop. And the marriage itself needs to have been entered into freely, not under coercion or fraud.
But if those conditions are met, you’re married. Period.
What About the Crowning Service?
Some converts wonder if they should have an Orthodox wedding service anyway, especially the beautiful crowning ceremony. It’s a reasonable question. The service is meaningful, and there’s something appealing about having your marriage blessed in the Church you now call home.
Here’s the thing: the Orthodox Church generally doesn’t do wedding services for people who are already married. It’s not that your marriage needs fixing or upgrading. The crowning isn’t a “redo” or a “now it really counts” moment. Your marriage already counts.
In rare pastoral situations, a priest might bless a marriage in some way, but that’s something to discuss with your priest and bishop. It’s not standard practice. The Antiochian Church, like other Orthodox jurisdictions, operates on the principle of economy here, pastoral flexibility that recognizes the reality of people’s lives before they became Orthodox.
When One Spouse Isn’t Converting
This gets more complicated when only one spouse is becoming Orthodox. Maybe you’re ready to be received into the Church, but your husband isn’t interested. Or your wife is supportive but happy staying Methodist.
Your marriage is still valid. The Church doesn’t require your spouse to convert. But if you were to marry now as an Orthodox Christian, you’d need to marry another Orthodox Christian or someone willing to have an Orthodox wedding. That’s about future marriages, though, not yours.
The pastoral challenge here isn’t about validity. It’s about navigating different faith commitments in your home. Can you go to Liturgy on Sunday while your spouse goes to the Baptist church? What about raising kids? These are real questions, but they’re not about whether you need to remarry. Talk to your priest. He’s dealt with this before.
Why This Matters
The Church’s approach here reflects something important about Orthodox theology. We believe the Church is the fullness of the faith, the place where we encounter Christ most completely in the Mysteries. But we don’t believe God was absent from your life before you became Orthodox. Your baptism at age twelve in that church camp pool? God was there. Your wedding at your fiancée’s family parish? God was there too.
Becoming Orthodox isn’t about erasing your past. It’s about entering more fully into the life of the Church, receiving the fullness of what Christ offers. Your marriage comes with you into that new life. It doesn’t need to be redone. It needs to be lived now within the Orthodox faith, sanctified by your participation in the Church’s life together.
If you’ve got specific questions about your situation, a previous divorce, a spouse who wasn’t baptized, something unusual in your history, talk to Fr. Michael or one of the other priests at St. Michael. Every situation has its details, and that’s what pastoral guidance is for. But for most people, the answer is straightforward. You’re married. The Church recognizes that. Welcome home.
